This! Oh this!! This has been me. At some point I thought I’m just very reserved…No! It’s fear. I recently participated in a competition and I would say being that “good girl” who thinks she’s reserved didn’t let me get what I wanted. I saw other girls, the bold ones, the lousy ones…they were everywhere but were getting things right and getting the attention. They made it far. I was sad and depressed for months but then I thought about it again and realised I was unnecessarily being a good girl. I read something similar this morning and this is just a confirmation that I need to get up and start speaking for myself. Thank you Favour!
Yes! You're spot in! Recently, someone told me I argued a lot and my response was; Why do you lie a lot and expect me to be okay with it? There's this feminine politeness we've pushed to a higher level. We've really got to be speaking up for ourselves more! Don't just put in the work, be loud about it as welllll!
- Document your wins
- Speak up in meetings
- Ask for more
- Stop over-apologizing
- Be your own PR
- Say what you need
- Don’t play the cool girl
- Set boundaries early
- Be expressive
- Pursue what you want loud
- Surround yourself with visible women
- Practice the discomfort of speaking up
- Be okay with not being liked
You are not wrong for being kind, soft, helpful, or humble. But you are never meant to stop there.
Humility is not silence.
Grace is not invisibility.
You can be all these things and still own your stage.
I can’t just say ‘Thank you’ for this pace booster,
God bless you, Favour.
Real good.
This! Oh this!! This has been me. At some point I thought I’m just very reserved…No! It’s fear. I recently participated in a competition and I would say being that “good girl” who thinks she’s reserved didn’t let me get what I wanted. I saw other girls, the bold ones, the lousy ones…they were everywhere but were getting things right and getting the attention. They made it far. I was sad and depressed for months but then I thought about it again and realised I was unnecessarily being a good girl. I read something similar this morning and this is just a confirmation that I need to get up and start speaking for myself. Thank you Favour!
“The world is big enough” scream till they look your way. Thats my mantra going forward
Good girls don’t get the corner office
You've spoken well. I will do as you've asked my lord
Woman are taught that being the good girl will keep you safe, but it can also keep you trapped where you don’t want to be.
Welp, this post did what it was supposed to do.
Thank you, and may God keep you uplifted!
I spoke up for myself just last week and I got what I deserved. It was very uncomfortable but I chose myself first.
I want to be the bold girl, not the good girl.
You are definitely "doing it" and you are indeed "writing" 🌼🤍 I loved and resonated with this piece so much!
As someone who struggles to speak up for herself or put herself out there, this has given me the push I needed. Thank you so much!
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This is as real as it gets. Very accurate. Thank you, Favour.
This is so real!!! Thank you Favour💜💜
Yes! You're spot in! Recently, someone told me I argued a lot and my response was; Why do you lie a lot and expect me to be okay with it? There's this feminine politeness we've pushed to a higher level. We've really got to be speaking up for ourselves more! Don't just put in the work, be loud about it as welllll!
This! This!!
“Be too much if necessary”
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