Why So Grumpy?
Why are we so grumpy these days?
Why?
So someone checked in on me the other day, you know, one of those “Hey, how are you?” messages and I said, “I am fine.” Because, really, I am. Life is life-ing, yes, but I’m okay. Then I asked them how they were, and they said they are “fine too, just not happy… because everyone around them is grumpy.” And I felt that. Deeply. And something I felt was a slight annoyance at the constant rate of grumpiness around. My dear, it’s exhausting to see.
Like, I get it. Nigeria is wild. The world is not exactly peaches and cream. Things are hard, people are tired, and sometimes it feels like joy is illegal. But my God, the complaints? The never-ending sighs, rants, and low vibes? It’s too much. I am drained.
No, I am not saying don’t feel your feelings. I am not saying ignore reality or pretend that everything is sweet when it’s not. This isn’t about fake positivity or bottling things up. Please, cry when you need to cry. Be upset. Vent. Feel. But don’t live there.
Don’t pitch a tent in sadness and build a three-bedroom flat in despair.
Do not do that!
You feel me?
This year, my pastor started the year by saying: “No complaining.” Not because things wouldn’t get rough, but because he knew that joy is a fetcher. Joy calls things in. Complaining? It just drains you and everyone around you.
And look, I know it takes effort. Sometimes joy feels like an Olympic sport. But honestly, I want to be a cheerful girl for the rest of my life. Not entirely delusional. Not unserious. Just someone who chooses to hope. Who chooses light. Who gets knocked down and still finds a way to smile with one side of her mouth, even if her eyes are still puffy from crying. It’s not easy, but I think I am up for the task.
So yeah, I wrote this mostly for me. For the days when I forget. For the days when it feels like joy is out of stock. To remind myself: God remains faithful. Life will always have ups and downs. But if I must go through things, I’d rather go through them with a little sparkle in my step and a hopeful heart.
The Holy Spirit told me the same thing few weeks ago.
It's okay to be sad, upset and angry but don't sit with it.
Declare His word and find joy even in the seemingly little things. And Honestly it has been hard trying not to be sad or grumpy but God is helping me. God is helping all of us.
Hey there, shining light...I get you, I see you, I witness your words. Same here. Sure, I cry. Sometimes a LOT. And I miss my madre, who has been gone since 2018. So I talk with her (not as much as I initially did). And it feels good. And you know what? Feeling good IS THE POINT. We are here to FEEL GOOD. And feeling good is just that: FEELING GOOD.
Why would we want to feel otherwise? Blessings to you, dear Favour.