What Are You Doing Favour?

I will tell you.

But, first.

Half the time I don’t even know the next thing to do but something never changes.

What?

Caring for me.

I don’t think we just glow.

I think we choose to glow.

With everything we are about.

The friends, Places, gigs, foods, clothes, styles, music, everything.

And I get asked what I do.

Baby, I don’t know exactly but here’s some;

1. I invest in my looks, unapologetically. I deserve to look like care. Like love. Like softness lives here. You feel me? I wear things I love and comfortable in. I do away with unwanted stuff, take my old clothes and clean them well. I have many old clothes because I like everything I get and they so functional and sentimental.

2. I learn poise and good communication. You can fault me for many things but never bad communication or handling life and things. Grace isn’t just about posture, it’s how you handle life, rejection, money, and tension. I want to be remembered for how I speak, how I listen, and how I make people feel.

3. I master hobbies that feed my mind. Writing. Photography. Dancing. They are my mirrors. They remind me who I am outside work and relationships.

4. I travel alone sometimes. And I am trying to do this more. Gently. At my pace. For clarity. There is something about getting on a plane with just yourself and coming back with a clearer mind.

5. I attend things that feel like my future. Wonderful events. Colorful weddings of people I love and care for. Museums. Concerts. I dress up and go where I want to be, even if I am not “there” yet.

6. I join spaces that feel like home. I love to be alone but I don’t love it at the same time. I thrive with beautiful people around me. Communities. Sisterhoods. People who don’t drain me, but feed me. Growth doesn’t happen in isolation.

7. I document my joy. Diaries. Journals. Writings. Photos. Videos. Mementos. Souvenirs. Not just shots, but warm, thoughtful captures. I want to remember how good every version of me/my life felt.

8. I study everything. Myself included. The more I know, the less I accept what’s beneath me.

9. I learn how to rest and rise. Sleep. Routine. Healing. But also, budgeting, investing, negotiating, earning. I rest so I can build. Not to escape building.

10. I honor my body and health. Checkups. Hygiene. Skin. Feeding (hnmm). Fitness. My body is my first home. I honor that.

Never really been about a checklist for me.

Never about pressure.

Intentional growth. Yes.

Many days, I have something to pick from.

If I am not the best strategist today, I can be the one taking care of my skin best.

I want to sleep better.

Take walks.

Eat.

Live.

Care.

Love.

Book a class.

Talk.

Share.

Breathe.

There’s so much to do with this life.

I can start from me.

That’s what I am doing.