Hey,
I am having a calm evening today. I feel a bit anxious thanks to some deadlines approaching but that feeling is nothing compared to the excitement I have from writing to you right now.
Throughout the day, I thought about this concept of men and women that I once stumbled across and all I wanted to do was share it with you.
My first introduction to this concept was from a book called Men Are Like Waffles – Women Are Like Spaghetti by Bill and Pam Farrel.
The Big take?
That a man is like a waffle (each element of his life is in a separate box), and a woman is like spaghetti (everything in her life touches everything else).
It is possible to make too much out of the differences between men and women, but it is also possible to make the opposite mistake. If you want to have relationships/bonds that add to your life rather than make you exhausted, it seems to us that the place to start is with an understanding of the uniqueness each gender brings to the relationship.
It is commonly suggested that while a man tends to deal with one problem or purpose at a time (moving from waffle square to waffle square), a woman's thoughts generally flow together (like spaghetti noodles). And once you can discover how the opposite gender processes feelings and thoughts, you're on your way to a happy and healthy relationship!
An interesting analogy I must confess. One that has helped me see things differently and understand men and women more. Men, more precisely.
I think it can help you too.
However,
It's important to note that while this analogy may resonate with some people, it's a generalization and doesn't apply to everyone as individual differences far outweigh any broad generalizations about how men and women think and behave.
To summarize the analogy;
Waffles: This analogy suggests that men compartmentalize their thoughts and emotions like the separate compartments of a waffle. They may focus on one thing at a time and keep different aspects of their lives separate.
Spaghetti: On the other hand, women are said to have thoughts and emotions that are interconnected, much like the strands of spaghetti in a bowl. They may multitask and have a tendency for their thoughts and emotions to intertwine and influence each other.
And that’s the concept. An interesting one I cannot stop thinking about…
Tell me…What do you think about this?
Omooo, this is it then. Perhaps, I'm not weird after all because I find that all aspects of my life run into each other. If this is good or bad, I'm yet to figure it out. The analogy is profound and now like you, I'll be thinking about it often.
(I love how diverse and beautiful you write). ❤️
Well done. Love the way you write.
Interesting analogies. Never really thought about it in this way, but it is an elaborate one nonetheless.
I know you mention these as generalizations but I can’t help but wonder: to those it applies to, do you think it applies in a wholesome way?
I.e.,for the woman who processes life’s in an intertwined way, does she do that for every situation? or are there cases where this same woman can then be logical or compartmental in her processing?
…And vice-versa.